5 months ago, I would never have believed it.
I had a dream to start a podcast. This podcast would be something bigger than me. My goal from the beginning was to create something that would greatly benefit listeners.
I had no idea what.
I had no idea how.
BUT, I knew my why:
My soul catches on fire when I help others succeed.
My heart’s desire is to see others rise to the top.
What is success?
On this journey of discovering what success is, I’ve had a few failures, a few lessons to learn. Luckily, none that has kept me down.
I also created a goal to earn $10,000 by March 1st, 2013 because I have over $160K in debt; about 90K in college debt and about 70K for our new home.
Since I made that goal, I’ve developed numerous projects and services, and helped a lot of people along the way.
I supose this is the time to say HOW I make that money
October 2013 :
Podcast Dojo Mastermind : $222
Podcast Host : $375
Affiliate Programs : $65
Here is the story of The Leadership Dojo Launch
CHICKA -WHAT? YOU CRAZY?
Yes, maybe I am. But I am fulfilling my dream here.
My last job was a graduate professor. I organized a few career seminars for students. They were a huge success. Partially because the students did not know how to prepare for an interview or what career path to choose AND no one had taught them how.
This lead me to believe that young professionals are hungry for this kind of knowledge.
So, Scott Barlow of Happen to Your Career and I will be creating a product called “Rock Your Interview”
It will be a ~30 episode How-To prepare and rock your interview so you can get your dream JOB
Fear grips us all in it’s clutches. A leader has to shut fear up to make progress on any dream or goal
I’m writing a lot about fear lately. It’s probably because that’s what eats away at my mind.
Here is a list of common fears that plague me:
You’re a nobody. No one will listen to you
You don’t know enough about this platform and podcast business.
You’re content isn’t unique. Everyone will find you boring. You aren’t interesting
You’re an awful writer. You have to rely on your wife to edit your writing.
You’re quality of podcasts is awful. You won’t be able to build an audience
Have you ever heard these things before? Have you dealt with these fears?
Here’s how I have conquered my fears lately
1) Talk with family and friends
My wife is my number one fan. We talk on our walks about fears and the future. She is so great at identifying my fears and brushing them off like lice on hair.
) Identify them clearly
Clearly identify the fears that plague you. Once you identify them, they don’t become a foreign and terrifying monster. They become that crochety neighbor that you ignore
) Write them down
I wrote down my fears and I identified them. I recently did this and it gave me power over my fears. It placed a familiarity on the doubts.
) Discover what’s the worst thing that could happen
Most fears paralyze you from action. But think about it, what would happen if you did the thing you fear most?
Would you die?
Would you lose a close friend?
Would you lose a lot of money?
If the answer is yes, then maybe you should seek wiser counsel than this silly blogger.
But if your answer is no, then kick yourself in the rear and get working you terd!
) Keep your fear list with an action list
Write down next to your fears what action will you take when those fear pop up.
Without an action to a fear, you will likely experience the same anxiety and frustration. A plan of action allows you to overcome the fear, punch it in the face, and move on.
There are only two “primal” fears. The fear of loud noises and falling. Everything else is taught.
Punch your fears in the face today
Dates can be extravagant
Ladies, if you’ve stopped shaving your legs, it’s time to take your man on a date.
Men, if your watching more TV than you are spending time with your spouse, it’s time for a date.
My friends often create excuses (which always are poo-poo) as to why they can’t go on a date. One of the most common reasons I hear: money.
Here are six tips to motivate you to love your spouse with a date!
Share a meal and drink
Restaurants often give so much food that you need a box to take home. And let’s face it, you probably want to lose some poundage.
Ask the waitress to split the meal in half and share it.
Walk the park/beach
Walking has been proven time and time again to be beneficial for relationships and bodies.
Build up your local community and your relationship by helping others. Who knows, you may discover a passion with your spouse.
Make the ordinary, extraordinary (buy 4 bean burritos, place in basket, go to park)
Take the leftovers from last night. Package then with gourmet utensils, parsley, and folded napkins. Go to a quiet hill in the country side and enjoy some time alone
create a scanvanger hunt
Go Garage Saling 😀
Street fair, farmer’s market, art walk
Local Band Events
Local Library Class
Rent a movie at the Library
Hulu has some Free Movies
Order Little Ceasar’s and watch your wedding video
Become a one-night Mousseuse
Schedule a snuggle date
Real Estate Shopping
Change can so easily cause fear. Fear wants you to love consistency. Consistency hates the possibility of failure. I think most of us have been conditioned to hate failure, instead of embracing it, like change, like uncertainty.
When I embrace change, I know that failure is a possibility. But there are so many examples of great failures that lead to amazing successes.
It’s importmant to haggle
Mastermind secrets revealed!
In this post I want to share what actually goes on in my mastermind group. I share this with the hope that you will be convinced about how beneficial mastermind groups can be.
We meet weekly at 9PM on Monday. Our group gathers online using Google Hangout.
At 9PM we do the typical chit-chat. However, I really like to push the group to dive right in 🙂
We share personal wins that happened for us during the week. Usually, the one who shares the most is the person who was in the “hot seat” during the previous week. I believe it’s because the “hot seat” lights a fire within the soul, as you will soon read about.
While we are sharing our personal victories with each other, we often learn how to apply the wins of others to our own businesses.
Around 9:20PM we begin the “hot seat”. One individual talks the group through their business. Usually the entrepreneur in the “hot seat” shares his or her challenges. It’s an open discussion and questions fly back and forth.
The “hot seat” is the highlight of the show. Other members share their constructive criticism. You literally get to see the “A-HA” moment in their eyes.
One thought of criticism pops up every meeting. It goes something like this, “You are spending money to do X. Why don’t you try to get someone to do it for you for free or cheaper?”
There are an infinite number of students who will do the job of a paid employee for free, just for the experience. Yes, it’s true. There are students in college right now who look at job applications online that read, “Desired 3 years minimum experience.” Students need experience. So many of us have reached out to colleges in our area to find students who are willing to do the work for free.
We continually come back to the concept of “Do it cheaper.”
9:40PM – Who can help (member) with their problem?
This is the secret to a rockin’ mastermind group. Every entrepreneur has challenges. Sadly, they face them alone. In a mastermind group, each member is dedicated to the success of others.
Someone from the group will volunteer to help the “hot seat” member. This is how a group grows. Not only their business, but their dedication to one another.
9:50PM – State the “Hot Seat” Member’s Goal for next week.
The “hot seat” member will create an actionable goal for the next meeting.
10PM – Chit-Chat and end the call.
Are you a part of a mastermind group? What benefits have you seen in your life or business?
All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. -Walt Disney
Determination and persistance is a common theme leaders say is necessary for long term success. I believe everyone needs rock-solid determination to achieve their goals and dreams.
Do you remember when you said, “When I grow up, I will be a (Fireman, Nurse, Astronaut, Teacher, the President of the Rotary Club)”?
We all had our dream. We wanted to become someone of significance, someone who brought value.
Well, I had a close friend who wanted to be a weatherman. Yes, a weatherman. I still don’t know why, but that was his dream.
But somewhere from childhood to high school, his dream died. He played video games all day and hung out with the wrong crowd.
His dream died, and so did the child inside. His dream died because he wasn’t determined to become what he once dreamed about.
What are your dreams?
You have one. If you don’t have a dream, you are believing a lie. Think of something you want, but don’t have now.
The dream house
The dream job
The dream spouse
The dream marriage
The dream family
The dream vacation
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
If you’re not taking steps towards your dream, you truly don’t believe it.
You suck at your dream if you’re not taking action. It’s true, you stink. and it’s okay.
You are not determined. You do not believe your dream.
See, if you really do believe in something, then you’ll act.
You believe in your seat, right now. You believe that it will support you, and all of your sexy pounds. Because of your belief, you sat down (took action).
Do you really believe your Dream?
To truly believe means action. You can tell me til you’re blue in the face that you believe in Bigfoot, but until I know that you go on camping extursions, do nightly research, show proof of your local Bigfoot Search Committee, demonstrate your Bigfoot walk, I WILL NOT BELIEVE IN YOU.
If you quit your dream, you didn’t believe. Maybe you doubted yourself.
Doubt and fear kill dreams. They kill happiness and joy. In your search of your dream, I beg you to use the hundreds of resources available. A great start would be my friend’s Podcast Starve The Doubts.
(Link to Starve your Doubts)
Find a better dream
Giving up on a dream isn’t easy. But maybe it’s time to dream bigger. What value can you add to others that makes a impact.
Pursue with Tiger-like ferocity
Dreaming is easy. Pursuing your dreams is easy too. It takes a plan and action.
Tigers walk the jungle with a clear plan of attack. They know what and when they will take action. And they don’t stop until they bring home the kill.
(Link to Travis (blog with the f = word in it)
Have you given up on your dreams? Can you rework your dream into something bigger? How can you revitalize your determination?
who knows? If you believe and act long and hard enough, maybe you’ll achieve it, and find bigfoot. Call me when you do.
“The man who doesn’t read has no advantage over the man who can’t.” – Epictetus
Andy Andrews recently posted a video blog to answer the question, “How can I convince someone to read when I know that a book will change his life?” I thought this question was extremely powerful. At the bottom of this question is the heart of a leader. A leader strives for the improvement of mankind, rather than themselves only. A leader is genuinely interested in people and has a desire to help others develop and grow.
The National Endowment of the Arts created a report called “To Read or Not To Read: A Question of National Consequence”. The report stated that basic and below basic readers made $200 per week less than proficient readers (page 83). On average that’s over $10,000 per year. Yes, people who don’t read on a consistent level make $10,000 less than those who proficiently read.
Reading allows you to avoid the mistakes of others
“Only a fool learns from his own mistakes. The wise man learns from the mistakes of others.” – Otto von Bismarck, German Chancellor, 1862 to 1890
Would you rather A) Make a horrible mistake OR B) Learn from a horrible mistake of someone else?
I hope you choose B. But I know we all have done A. By reading a book of an expert, we can learn their knowledge, mistakes and experience. Without Stephen Covey’s principles in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, I would never be at the point where I consistently blogged.
Reading challenges your thinking
We all have bad ideas and believe in them. Not convinced? Think back 5 or 10 years ago. Think about something you believed about the government, your religion, your career, your significant other, your family. Has anything changed since then?
Reading a book can challenge the way we think. It can change your life and take it to the next level. In Pat Flynn’s book, Let Go, he tells his story of how he was like a chained circus elephant. He says that we can all be conditioned to believe what a happy and good life is. As we age, we don’t challenge common beliefs. But when someone breaks free of these common beliefs, it can lead to amazing success.
Just read his $3 book. He went to being let go at his arichetect firm at $60,000 per year to now making $50,000 a month from passive income. Don’t believe it? Check out his monthly income reports.
A leader must be reading to challenge what she or he believes. Our beliefs can hold us back from mastering life.
Reading arms you with knowledge
Do you know someone who is struggling with their marriage? Can’t find a job? Filed for bankrupcy? Can’t get a date? Maybe it’s you. Well if it is you, you’re not alone. There are hundreds of “failures” who know now what they wish they knew back then. Now, they are helping millions of others who struggle with what they fought through.
Dave Ramsey filed for bankruptcy and almost got a divorce. Now, he’s a multimillionaire and helping thousands recover their finances.
Lewis Howes, once a pro-football player, broke his wrist and became depressed, jobless, poor, and lived at his sister’s house. Now he’s a motivational speaker who’s very well off. He has an excellent podcast called the “School of Greatness”. Check it out if you need some motivation.
Tony DiLorenzo struggled through 19 year addiction to pornography and almost divorced his wife, twice. Now, he and wife run a website, ONE Extraordinary Marriage, dedicated to “Help Couples by Being Real, Honest, and Living Without Masks in Marriage” (that comes straight from their intro subscription email).
Reading blogs, books, and listening to these movers and shakers can alter your future. It’s changed mine.
Question for you:
What books are you reading to enhance your leadership? What book in the past has made you grow the most? What book delivered the hardest challenge to change?
I love my wife. I really enjoy sex too. I was recently introduced to Tony DiLorenzo. He leads hundreds to happier marriages thru his website and podcast.
I listened to one podcast with my wife a couple of weeks ago. They are an extremely open couple on the podcast. It’s like a conversation at my in-laws house. Sex, oral, climax, all the words you never wanted to hear your parents say.
But we heard about their 7 day challenge to have sex. I was on board immediately. And my wife quickly caught on to the benefits after listening to the podcast.
heads up, I’m not selling anything.
I want to share this email I sent myself 2 years ago.
It’s humbling to read this email. Two months ago my business reached over $10,000/month in revenue (90% profit).
I wish I could say, “here’s 5 step process to make money”, but I’m no expert. What I can say is that “success” takes daily hustle (a message few wish to hear or acknowledge). Don’t let setbacks halt your progress. If your first project fails, keep hustling. If your fifth project fails, keep hustling.
Do this today:
Write your fears that stop you from achieving your goals. Don’t hesitate. Your fear likes to stay in your mind and morph into different forms of fear. Fear commonly takes the form of:
Once you identify your fears, then answer your fears with truths. Everyone knows there aren’t monsters underneath your bed because we understand and accept the truth: monsters do not exist.
Truth eliminates fear like a light makes a dark room bright. Darkness still exists in a lit room, just behind objects. When we remove those objects, the light peirces the darkness.
When you identify your fear, you pinpoint the obstacle. When you state truths against the fear, you remove the obstacle from the light.